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Converting Your Nonsense Conversation Topic into Attraction

There are men that sometimes the first thing they do when they meet a woman is to show her that they understand GAME.

They'll start to talk about alpha males, how women always cheat on their boyfriends, how they know women are more intimate than men etc.

Starting now, I will refer to this nonsense as "The Talk of Death".

Let me tell you why, and also I'll give you a very counter-intuitive idea of what to do instead.

As what I have learned in pick-up this kind of things will make your conversation topics with women very poor. Especially hot ones.

It might work with the social anthropologist grad student, but to the woman that any man in his right mind would be attracted to, there are a few major things wrong with this strategy:

(BTW - if you do happen to meet a woman that likes this kind of stuff, by all means talk about it, I'm just saying it should not be used as an ATTRACTION strategy for most of the female population)

1. It puts her on the defensive. It's like one country exposing it's battle plans to another country that it is at war with.

It shows that you are "thinking too much" about the dynamic, which is aside from turn off, it also makes her think you're going to be a mind-trip. Not good.

2. Chances are, a woman's awareness level is about 10% of yours.

Especially if you're keeping up on my "Stepped Awareness" newsletters.

Have you ever tried played a song you liked for a friend and they just didn't get it?

It's because their awareness didn't go through the same process that yours had - and resulted in you really liking the song...

To a woman who keeps busy thinking about new shoes, celebrities and her problems with her boss, your talk about "the unique mating patters of the bonobo apes and how it relates to women in the club" is just too alien and weird for her.

This is the same reason why you'll sometimes see the biggest AFC ever with a smoking hot girl. He's normal, and she can easily introduce him to her friends without embarrassment!

3. To a woman that DO get this stuff; what you're talking may seems like a big deal, when it should be plainly obvious.

5-10% of women actually DO get this stuff. It's obvious, intuitive and accepted for them.

These women tend to also like women, capable of open relationships, and generally a lot of fun.

But here's the thing - the guys they end up dating also get this stuff intuitively.

And when you get something intuitively, you'll never go out of your way to convince another person of it, or explain it like it's some huge revelation!

So the moment you do it, the women who are most eligible for the lifestyle you're looking for, will instantly disqualify you.

So here's what you should do.

Well – these are the most powerful techniques I use:

First, you understand society's programming, then understand a woman's specific programming, and appear to be under the exact same programming.**

And also keep your knowledge of realityto yourself (and of course, if you figure out anything amazing, I would appreciate it if you share it on my forum as well)
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Synopsis on the Recent Episode of Mystery's the Pick-Up Arti...

Hey guys! I wanted to share with you my predictions on Mystery's the Pick-Up Artist which was aired on VH1 a few weeks ago.

So here’s what I liked:

The Ridiculous Outfits Mystery's. No one can peacock like mystery, hands down. And the shows budget really allows for some fancy stuff. I dig it. Peacocking that hard is actually quite a challenge. Don't believe me? Go to your local lair and look at all the guys who try it and get it wrong. It's a  trainwreck.

The Students. I love pick up students in general, they're always so eager to learn, share a common interest with me, and so grateful for even the smallest amounts of improvement they make. Students are hands down the #1 reason why I do what I do.

The Challenges. Creative, fun and entertaining. Winner of one contest gets to walk around with a cute puppy in the next. Hillarious.

Now here’s what I didn't like:

Mystery not knowing why some of his students fail... He's so attached to his structured  method, he literally has blind spots as to why his students get blown out... "Yeah he should have used a false time constraint". How about his lame body language, complete lack of masculine vibe and messed up compliance ratios?

Using 4 year old, tired-out material, like "flossing before you brush etc.." Come on, we stopped using that stuff 3 years ago for good reason! It is lame, non-sensual conversation that goes NOWHERE! Sure you'll get the woman to answer your question, but that's not always what I call PROGRESS. If you're going to have the guys memorizing routines, why not make them powerful, masculine and effective?

J-Dog's hair. I don't think I need to go into details with this. Looks like the poor dude passed out on a park bench in the middle of a graffiti contest. While there were certainly things about this show that bug the working pick up artist in me, I have to hand it to Mystery and VH1 for presenting the community in a good light to a mainstream audience.

An lastly here’s some of my predictions to the four dudes:

Joe: I think this guy has got serious potential on the show. He got the attitude down, but he's the type that will get a certain level of success and become complacent. He'll get a girlfriend and develop his social circle and work off that. But not a TRUE master pua material. I just don't see the kind of passion that would carry him to Master PUAdom. He may do well only on the show, just due to the lack of competition.

Alvaro: This guy could become a master pua, but not in a few weeks, and not under Mystery's tuleage. He's got that "inner flame" that drives him to excel at different things, but he needs to work out being consistent, and kill his approach anxiety and fear. He's still got the brakes on. But the moment he gets past that, his game will explode.

Brady: Tall, good looking, fast learner. He's chill, makes steady progress. What's holding himself back is his use of corny material, and constant second guessing of himself. If he just chills out and acts naturally he'll be on fire. Again though, like joe, will probably become complacent at a certain level.

Pradeep: Could become a master pua, but he needs to seriously increase his sensuality. He's in the friend zone still. Doesn't matter if he got that chick's number on the show because that was FRIENDLY number close. He's interesting but... too interesting. It's giving the woman something to be attracted to, but those things are too exterior to get that deep physical attraction that a pua needs to do fast pulls, sensual selection switching, multiple relationship stuff, etc...

And as a conclusion, the show is super entertaining and I'll definitely be trying to catch another episode if I can.
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Dating Tips: Fixing your Approach with Women

There are men that will never be successful with girl.

"What?!"

You might say I've lost my mind, but it's true.

A lot of them just won't get it.

And it's not because they're not intelligent enough or somehow defective...

In fact, it's a subconscious choice, that they have committed unknowingly.

I know what you're thinking. - How can you make sure that you will not one of those guys? - right?

Well don't worry, I'm here to tell you how. The thing the I will say might probably never be hear in other gurus because it's such a very subtle but very powerful fix that most leave it out of the equation.

Let me tell you about Matt.  Matt's a good guy, likes socialize. He has taken a bootcamp with another one of the pickup companies. But Matt still doesn't get the success he really wants; in fact he's not successful at all.

"Vin, why don't you help him!?"

There are a couple reasons why I didn't help Matt out. One being he's too set in his ways and is stubborn.

But, that's not the real reason. If he was only stubborn I'd have an easy time changing his mind about certain things.

The real reason why I can't help him is the same reason why he isn't successful with girls.

As I said Matt's a good guy, but every time I talk to him I get the feeling like he wants something from me. In fact a lot of our mutual friends have said the same thing to me about him.

Me and my friends don't like hanging with and neither do women.

Matt always give this vibe of having an ulterior intentions. He approach to you like a friend, which is great, but he naturally gives off a vibe that says to me that he's trying to take knowledge, power and fun from me.

The same thing happens when he's talking with girls. He treats them in a friendly manner and is funny but always gives off a vibe that on another level he has an underlying intention.

Having intentions with women isn't a bad thing. If you express your sensual    intentions openly it will be acceptable to them, especially if you have great game. It may even switch them on. In fact it will skyrocket your conversion rate if you do it the right way.

But if you hide your intentions and you come off as creepy and weird. Women won't trust you or feel safe being alone with you. You could be the best actor in the world but... THEY WILL KNOW.

Being creepy is the "Death" card in the Tarot deck of your love life. It will destroy any chance of success you might have.

So now you know what might be going wrong. Lets go fix it?

Well to start off you need to begin being fun and unattached to the outcome whenever you can. It's not about giving back money. It could be anything from telling a great story or being a great host to a bunch of your friends.  It could also be a compliment (in the right way) or a tease that will spike emotions in way that is fun to a girl.

Be out there and start talking with women not only because you want to pickup, but because women are amazing, fun, interesting and wonderful.

Next thing you need to do is to start being clear about your intentions. This doesn't mean you directly tell the girl "The whole purpose of me talking to you is so that I can get into your pants."  That's a sure way to kill your game about as fast as being creepy.

And there are small subtle changes you can make in your behavior that will affect how your intentions are perceived and if you're congruent with what you're saying.  There are so many small fixes that I could write a novel on them.

But do you want to read a novel about fixing your creepy vibe and then taking the months to implement it that it will require? I don't think so. And I wouldn't want to spend the months writing that novel either.
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The Concept of Shaping the Women's Behavior

Today I will be sharing with you the concept of SHAPING the behavior of a woman.
 
This concept includes a number of tools that are used to set a STRONG precedent of behavior in a woman.

Before starting off  here's a Quick Question >>>

Have you ever been in a situation with a woman, and she talked about how she was LOVED when her boyfriend did something very special?

Does it motivate you somehow in doing that SAME EXACT THING?

-or-

Have you ever been with a woman, and she asked you if you were trustworthy, honest or had a good relationship with your family?

Do you remember feeling motivated to answer in a way to IMPRESS HER?

Of course... we've all been there.

The outcome on those situations is that important but on the fact that you were EMOTIONALLY COMPELLED to behave in a certain way... So we are going to focus on that fact in this topic

Whether she knew it or not (most likely, she DIDN'T) she was SHAPING you.

Now don't get me wrong, this isn't necessarily a bad thing...

People do it to each other all the time.

But most of the time, you are encouraging a woman to behave in a way that is NOT aligned with your
desired outcome.

And that's what we want to change STARTING RIGHT NOW.

Before we start to employ shaping in the interactions with women, we have to consider first these  ways. And I've split them up into 5 different categories.

Now don't get me wrong.

This is a HUGE topic, and I could literally teach an entire seminar on shaping ALONE.

Right now I just want to get the seeds planted in your mind so that you can begin to grasp the higher level ideas, and start to incorporate them into your interactions.

So let's look at the five different categories of shaping.

1. Screening questions.

Screening questions are questions specifically designed to:
A) Get a woman to answer a specific way and
B) Start to behave in a manner more congruent with how she just answered you.

There are many types of screening questions, and above all you should use them in the right context.

For example, you wouldn't start a conversation with a woman with the question "Do you consider yourself to be independent?"... but it might come later on.

Screening questions are by far the least subtle and most OVERT out of all the shaping techniques.

They are easiest to employ RIGHT away, but because they cause a sharp emotional response, they may seem transparent and obvious to the woman.

2. Showing that you value certain behaviors or personality traits.

This is very similar to screening questions, except this time you are making a statement.

It's a little less obvious, but it is no where near as subtle as the remaining 3 techniques.

Instead of saying something like "What was the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?" (which is a screening question) You might say something like "Spontaneity is really important to me. It not only keeps things fresh and exciting, but also reminds me of our incredible freedom in life."

Because you are JUSTIFYING your statement with a truism (it's hard to argue that spontaneity keeps
things fresh and exciting), she cannot disagree and will be motivated to agree that spontaneity is important.

And because she's committed to saying spontaneity is important, she will now behave in a way CONSISTENT with that.

3. Setting a strong precedent through storytelling.

Now we're getting warmer.

This technique, along with the next two, are VERY devious.

They are so devious, in fact, that women use them ALL THE TIME.

It's funny actually - my sister recently sat in on a recent DiClassified Drills workshop in NYC and I was surprised to discover that she not only agreed with the effectiveness of my techniques, but also - had already used many of them NATURALLY!

Of course this makes sense, seeing that many of my BEST techniques have been stolen DIRECTLY from the women I know who have the VERY BEST game.

The idea behind this 3rd concept is that you will tell a story that DEMONSTRATES what standards you expect, so that she can live up to them.

For example, you could say to a woman, very early in the interaction something like:

"One thing that is great about my friend Sarah, is that she is extremely thoughtful. Last night I mentioned that I was thinking of going shopping for a few new shirts, and not two hours later she dropped off this month's copy of GQ magazine on her way to the gym. Only problem now is, I have TOO MANY new ideas for a new outfit."

The beauty of that is, it doesn't even have to be true!

(I'm not going to make a moral decision for you here, I'm sure that you're more than capable. But for the record, these techniques have the exact same effect on a woman whether they are true or not)

4. Pointing out a desired personality trait while ignoring the undesirable.

This is classic shaping, and can be used freely to amplify existing behaviors and personality traits.

The idea is that - if you see a girl doing something (for example, drinking like CRAZY while out in a bar) you can comment on this in the following way.

Taking this single behavior - drinking like crazy, there are different components to it, some good, some bad.

Let's say you like the free-spirited aspect of  it, but you don't like the fact that she may not have a lot of self control...

You could say:

"Wow, you're so much fun! and so-free spirited. It's cool you do things you really want to do, and don't rely for others for direction. You follow your OWN desires."

By pointing out behaviors, you are in fact REWARDING them and AMPLIFYING that same behavior
in the future.

By selecting the ASPECT of her behaviors you like, and calling attention to them, you are SHAPING her future behavior.

(By the way, the above example is useful when going for a same-night-lay with a girl. You tell her she makes her own decisions and she'll be less likely to listen to her friends when they suggest that she shouldn't go home with you. Sneaky, but also KILLER in the field)

5. Reward calibration i.e. giving a woman cues as to how to perceive you based on the nature of the
way you reward her 'good' behavior. This is highly advanced, and I am far beyond the scope of this newsletter.

Just understand that if you have determined what you will acknowledge as "good" behavior from a
woman, it is to your benefit to REWARD her with something you want her to WORK for or CHASE
AFTER.

Hint: It should be either affection, physicality or getting in bed, and NEVER material or monetary. Violating this rule is the surest way to CREATE a gold digger!

(YES. Gold diggers are not born gold diggers. They are CREATED on a case by case basis by the men in their lives. See a woman as a gold digger, and that my friend, is what she will be.)

Be good, and use these techniques with care.
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