Creating a sensual tension is important in any interaction with a woman. It brings energy, or charge to the interaction. Its application is subtle, but powerful.
There are many concepts floating around in the seduction community about sensual tension. And I prefer a very pure definition of sensual tension because it is grounded in real sensual desire, and a very natural way of magnifying the tension felt by the woman.
Sensual tension is the presence of a controlled arousal state, in the absence of overt sensual interest.
Some examples of these are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sensual interest paired with false barriers, using the word “sexy” to convey a sensual intent, and of course the old Speed Seduction route – complex language patterns intended to implant sensual thoughts in a woman’s mind.
Some of these techniques are better than others, and can definitely improve the quality and success of your pickups.
When the time is right, I create sensual tension by focusing my sensual desire on my woman, but not making any overt advances. I maintain intrigue, a sense of ambiguity, which keeps her focused on me, and directs her mind toward sensual thoughts. The state that is with me is transferred to her, and she is now aroused. It is then only a matter of handling logistics through leadership and compliance techniques.
There are two reasons why building sensual tension is so important. First, women love to be become intimate. A sensual man is valuable to a woman because he can give her pleasure. Women are attracted to men who are attracted to women.
The second reason is more subtle. There is a phenomenon I call “state-transfer.” Have you ever been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a really great, excited mood?
In spite of having a bad mood, you would probably find yourself smiling and cheering up.
How do you feel around someone when they are nervous?
You feel nervous too! Think of a time you were with a woman, say a girlfriend, and she was obviously very horny and sensually arousing, but you weren’t doing anything sensual. You probably got excited because she was excited. This is how humans hypnotize each other in every day life – we transfer our states to each other.
State transfer may occur on a metaphysical, psychic energy level. But more so, a state is transferred with non-verbal sub communication. When you are turned on, your voice subtly (or not so subtly) reflects your state, as do your facial expressions, eye contact, manner of touching, body language, and a million other little things to numerous to try to micromanage.
How to have a controlled arousal state
It’s not as simple as just being turned on, although that’s part of it. State control is vital - if you are nervous or uncomfortable, you won’t be able to get sensually aroused. (State control is not only vital in seduction, but in life. It allows you to stay calm, generally happy, and more productive. In spiritual terms, it is sometimes called “staying centered” or having “peace of mind.”)
The best way to stay calm and comfortable in social situations is experience. Socialize more, go out (sober), get experience talking to women.
Meditation, good diet, avoidance of harmful indulgences like drug use, television, internet, and regular exercise all help.
Creating Tension
For the “getting turned on” part – creating tension, raising your testosterone level will have an incredible effect. Natural ways to increase testosterone include heavy weight training (squats, deadlifts, bench press, etc.) zinc supplementation, eating lots of animal protein, and if possible, have a regular intimacy.
Now you know how to get aroused. During your interactions with women, simply focus or imagine on what she’d look like naked and becoming intimate with her, or whatever naughty thoughts you want to entertain.
The tension component is really an extension of the second level of the Attraction Hierarchy - Intrigue. Intrigue can be described in two ways. It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a woman, or getting her attention fixated on you by being ambiguous and holding back information.
These are flip sides of the same coin. Applied to sensual tension, we enter a sensual state, but don’t verbalize our desire.
If we did, she may like it, or not like it, but at now she knows where she stands - she is validated.
That isn’t bad, but it’s not optimal. She has you figured out, and knows you want her, which gives her the option of forgetting about you and focusing elsewhere. You are “solved.”
Another key point about verbalizing sensual interest is that it puts her in a position where she has to agree to it. She must consciously admit that this is leading of becoming intimate. Again, that’s not bad, but is not optimal, and sometimes can create a mental block in her mind for getting isolated with you.
Imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure chest in front of you. Then you open it and find gold coins. When is the chest more interesting?
True, the gold coins are great, but there’s no longer a mystery. You can even forget about the gold coins for a while to go watch TV or call a friend, because those coins aren’t going anywhere.
But before you know what’s in there, that chest preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention.
Once you have mastered that concept, you're well on your way.
There are many concepts floating around in the seduction community about sensual tension. And I prefer a very pure definition of sensual tension because it is grounded in real sensual desire, and a very natural way of magnifying the tension felt by the woman.
Sensual tension is the presence of a controlled arousal state, in the absence of overt sensual interest.
Some examples of these are cocky bantering and flirting, explicit sensual interest paired with false barriers, using the word “sexy” to convey a sensual intent, and of course the old Speed Seduction route – complex language patterns intended to implant sensual thoughts in a woman’s mind.
Some of these techniques are better than others, and can definitely improve the quality and success of your pickups.
When the time is right, I create sensual tension by focusing my sensual desire on my woman, but not making any overt advances. I maintain intrigue, a sense of ambiguity, which keeps her focused on me, and directs her mind toward sensual thoughts. The state that is with me is transferred to her, and she is now aroused. It is then only a matter of handling logistics through leadership and compliance techniques.
There are two reasons why building sensual tension is so important. First, women love to be become intimate. A sensual man is valuable to a woman because he can give her pleasure. Women are attracted to men who are attracted to women.
The second reason is more subtle. There is a phenomenon I call “state-transfer.” Have you ever been in a bad mood, and a friend came by in a really great, excited mood?
In spite of having a bad mood, you would probably find yourself smiling and cheering up.
How do you feel around someone when they are nervous?
You feel nervous too! Think of a time you were with a woman, say a girlfriend, and she was obviously very horny and sensually arousing, but you weren’t doing anything sensual. You probably got excited because she was excited. This is how humans hypnotize each other in every day life – we transfer our states to each other.
State transfer may occur on a metaphysical, psychic energy level. But more so, a state is transferred with non-verbal sub communication. When you are turned on, your voice subtly (or not so subtly) reflects your state, as do your facial expressions, eye contact, manner of touching, body language, and a million other little things to numerous to try to micromanage.
How to have a controlled arousal state
It’s not as simple as just being turned on, although that’s part of it. State control is vital - if you are nervous or uncomfortable, you won’t be able to get sensually aroused. (State control is not only vital in seduction, but in life. It allows you to stay calm, generally happy, and more productive. In spiritual terms, it is sometimes called “staying centered” or having “peace of mind.”)
The best way to stay calm and comfortable in social situations is experience. Socialize more, go out (sober), get experience talking to women.
Meditation, good diet, avoidance of harmful indulgences like drug use, television, internet, and regular exercise all help.
Creating Tension
For the “getting turned on” part – creating tension, raising your testosterone level will have an incredible effect. Natural ways to increase testosterone include heavy weight training (squats, deadlifts, bench press, etc.) zinc supplementation, eating lots of animal protein, and if possible, have a regular intimacy.
Now you know how to get aroused. During your interactions with women, simply focus or imagine on what she’d look like naked and becoming intimate with her, or whatever naughty thoughts you want to entertain.
The tension component is really an extension of the second level of the Attraction Hierarchy - Intrigue. Intrigue can be described in two ways. It can be seen as a lack of over-validating a woman, or getting her attention fixated on you by being ambiguous and holding back information.
These are flip sides of the same coin. Applied to sensual tension, we enter a sensual state, but don’t verbalize our desire.
If we did, she may like it, or not like it, but at now she knows where she stands - she is validated.
That isn’t bad, but it’s not optimal. She has you figured out, and knows you want her, which gives her the option of forgetting about you and focusing elsewhere. You are “solved.”
Another key point about verbalizing sensual interest is that it puts her in a position where she has to agree to it. She must consciously admit that this is leading of becoming intimate. Again, that’s not bad, but is not optimal, and sometimes can create a mental block in her mind for getting isolated with you.
Imagine sitting in a room with a closed treasure chest in front of you. Then you open it and find gold coins. When is the chest more interesting?
True, the gold coins are great, but there’s no longer a mystery. You can even forget about the gold coins for a while to go watch TV or call a friend, because those coins aren’t going anywhere.
But before you know what’s in there, that chest preoccupies your mind and keeps your attention.
Once you have mastered that concept, you're well on your way.
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